I Confess. I’ve Cheated

It’s true. After 28 years of communing with, and feeling love every day, I found myself thinking about, and attracted to, another refrigerator.

After returning home from three months in San Diego, living with a stainless steel French door refrigerator, I found myself starting to think about French door refrigerators. I never intended to get serious. In fact there were things about that French door refrigerator that I didn’t like.

My refrigerator has been the best side-by-side partner, serving me well for all my cold storage needs. The freezer shelves are even wide enough to hold flat a tray or pizza, not tilted as most side-by-sides. And, in all that time I never had to make a service call! I love this refrigerator so much that there have been many times I actually said out loud to it “I love you.”

I felt that if I regularly sent love messages to it, from my heart, that it would stay healthy and be my side-by-side partner for many years. It must have worked. Everyone I talk to is astonished that it’s been working perfectly for 28 years!

But it knew something changed after San Diego. I wasn’t thinking anymore about how much I loved it. Instead I’ve been thinking about moving out of the house that I’ve lived in for 28 years. My lessening love was a crushing blow, the beginning of the end for my side-by-side.

Three days ago it began to show signs of illness. I spoke to it. I confessed that I had cheating thoughts and asked it’s forgiveness. I recited ho’oponopono to it and said I would always be faithful. It rallied for a short time but, alas, it was too late. My side-by-side is terminal.

It is a sad time. On Monday my kitchen love will be disconnected from life support and taken away with the embedded memories from it’s long shared life. Fortunately I will not be left alone. I have a shining new partner moving in Monday afternoon.

In homage to my daughter, Pinocchio will be moved to the new freezer.

It’s Never Too Soon To Give An End-Of-Life Goodbye

It’s never too soon to give an End-of-Life goodbye. – Three months ago I gave Joe that kind of goodbye because I thought our connection was over. I felt compelled to say to him what was on my heart – thank you for all the good you brought into my life; I apologize for irritating you; while we don’t get along now I wish you well and look forward to the next lifetime we are together harmoniously.

We wound up continuing to talk but his out-of-context anger grew. So, I had to completely and permanently walk away. Exactly one month later, at only 59, Joe suddenly passed away after a stroke. Because of my prior goodbye to him, and leaving nothing else unsaid I am completely clear and complete.

Yes I am grieving for the loss of the Joe who was gentle and kind and generous. And, I am sad that he was so deeply emotionally tortured that he couldn’t find his way out other than by bursting away from this life. But I will cherish all I learned in this short dance with him, and am forever grateful I understood it’s never too soon to give an End-of-Life goodbye.

Here are some of the energy optimizing Timeless Vibrations AAPs I’ve used to help get through challenging relationship situations.

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Love Note Movement

Hi Everyone,

Happy December!!

We are creating a Love Note Movement to spread Love across the globe. On 12/21 at 12:21pm (all time zones) we would like to create a “Wave” of Love around the world. This is similar to what we do every week at Peak Potentials where we text “Love Notes” to our family/friends/people we haven’t seen/talked to in forever or just saw yesterday, to let them know that we are thinking about them, that we are thankful to have them in our lives, etc… except our intention is that the texting of Love Messages be worldwide … imagine the whooosh of Beautiful Energy that will be created to coincide with the last day of the Mayan calendar (the start of something new and very Special), the Winter Solstice, and for the only reason we ever need … to Love one another ♥

It’s a big task as you can imagine and we’re hoping you all would please help. We created a Facebook Page dedicated to it and I was wondering if you all could please go on, “like it” and share it with your friends ( https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Love-Note-Movement/353453521416925 )

We also have a Twitter Page set up to see the wave of Love start in Fiji and then spread around dear Mother Earth ~ http://twitter.com/search?q=%23LoveNote&src=hash

Thank you so much for your support, and please remember to text your love notes at 12:21 on December 21, 2012.

Let’s spread some LOVE ♥ ♥ ♥

In Gratitude,
♥ Adam

The Love Note Movement
Join The Global Love Note Movement which takes place on 12/21 at 12:21pm. It’s easy! Just send or Text a “Love Note” to someone you haven’t talked to in a while saying you are thinking of them OR that you are thankful for having them in your life. For Example: A quick text, email, Facebook Message…

If You Want to Change the World

DEAR BEAUTIFUL MEN

♥ ♥ by Lisa Citore

If you want to change the world…

Love a woman – really Love her. Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.

Throw away your checklist and put your ear to her heart and listen. Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing-every winged one, every furry and scaled one, every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one, every not yet born and dying one…

Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life. If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.

If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet, you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her. If you want to change the world…

Love a woman – one woman beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason, beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety and all your superficial concepts of freedom.

We have given ourselves so many choices we have forgotten that true liberation comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire and burning through our resistance to Love.

There is one Goddess in every woman. Look into Her eyes and see-really see if she is the one to bring the axe to your head. If not, walk away. Right now. Don’t waste time “trying.”

Know that your decision has nothing to do with her because ultimately it’s not with who, but when we choose to surrender.

If you want to change the world…

Love a woman. Love her for life – beyond your fear of death, beyond your fear of being manipulated by the Mother inside your head.

Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her. Say you’re willing to LIVE with her, plant trees with her and watch them grow.

Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty, by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess through your adoration and devotion.

If you want to change the world…

Love a woman in all her faces, through all her seasons and she will heal you of your schizophrenia-your double-mindedness and half-heartedness which keeps your Spirit and body separate-which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self for something to make your life worth living.

There will always be another woman. Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars, trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.

Man doesn’t need any more choices. What man needs is a Woman, the Way of the Feminine, of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing, of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots strong enough to hold the Earth together while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.

If you want to change the world…

Love a woman, just one woman. Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.

Love her through her fear of abandonment, which she has been holding for all of humanity.

No, the wound is not hers to heal alone. No, she is not weak in her co-dependence. If you want to change the world…

Love a woman all the way through until she believes you, until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion, her wildness have returned to her …

… until she is a force of Love more powerful than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.

If you want to change the world…

Lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.

Lay down your inner war, righteous anger and Love a woman…beyond all of your striving for greatness, beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.

The holy grail stands before you if you would only take her in your arms and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.

What if peace is a dream, which can only be re-membered through the heart of the feminine, in man or woman?

What if a man’s Love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine is the key to opening Her (and His) heart?

If you want to change the world…

Love a woman to the depths of your shadow, to the highest reaches of your Being, back to the Garden where you first met her, to the gateway of the rainbow realm where you walk through together as Light as One, to the point of no return, to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth…”

To be a man and love a woman like this, she must be the kind of woman that *could* be loved like this.

♥ A woman leading her body, her life with trust, compassion and willingness. A woman that values, honors and allows her vulnerability to be witnessed, plunged into, ravished … A woman who communicates, stands in her center and opens herself wider, and wider … and wider, again. She sings her song and dances her dance in full confident feminine expression – And she honors him, his dance, his direction – yet ONLY because she honors her feminine and His masculine purpose NATURALLY fulfills her… “Here” – she knows she is home…

Thanks to Martin Hahn of www.settingheartsfree.com for sending me this post.

I Am – the Film

“We started by asking what’s wrong with the world.
We ended up by discovering what’s right with it.”

From the director BRUCE ALMIGHTY, THE NUTTY PROFESSOR AND ACE VENTURA: PET DETECTIVE comes a surprisingly powerful and inspirational film.

Healing the Feminine and Masculine wound?

From my friend and teacher Martin Hahn of www.settingheartsfree.com

“In the end we will conserve only what we love; love only what we understand; and understand only what we have been taught.” Baba Dioum

The great chasm between the masculine and feminine heart that has been created over the past 4 decades, and the ensuing suffering because of it, needs to be healed in order for us to once again be in union and create the love and abundance we were meant to have for each other. Are you up for the challenge? Because it’s up to you and me!

Are you ready to inspire those you know into greater ways of being in all aspects of life – in business, family, romance, friends, neighbors? If you are, then read on.

Untangling the mystery of love

What is Love? And who teaches us about what it means to love another?

We generally get our ideas from our parents, other family members, teachers, ministers and society as a whole. We usually enter this arena with much confusion and are left to our own devices to find out the truth about love. Sometimes the hard way.

The suffering currently going on in the world today because of this simple lack of understanding between the heart of a woman and the heart of a man has reached almost catastrophic proportions. Just look at the divorce rates today.

Many of you have come through Predicament sharing your stories about your experience in love and it hurts. The tears are real. It’s time we started to bridge the gap that has been created between the masculine and the feminine in each of us.

Let’s have a closer look.

In the healing of our hearts let’s look at the following 3 components of love:

1) Romantic Infatuation
2) Sexual Polarity
3) Love

Romantic Infatuation – the ‘falling’ in love.

It usually only happens once or twice in your whole lifetime if you’re lucky. It’s the feeling of finding something in another so deeply familiar it’s as if we’ve known them our whole life and you ’ve finally come home to your soul mate. They’re the one.

Have you ever felt something like this in your life? It’s very powerful.

Are you together with your spouse today because of that feeling?

The truth about romantic infatuation is that it is a trick of the Divine. It’s how we’re brought together to resolve our family issues. It creates a strong attraction, which, when it fades (and it will) we’re left to work through our unresolved family dynamics.

In other words, we’re attracted to someone with the reciprocal past issues to our own and that’s why they seem so familiar in the first place. In a sense it is a coming home. The stronger that feeling the more familiar the unresolved issue we are faced with in that relationship. Does that make sense? Would you like to know the root of this?

The Opening!

Imagine a child born very open, relaxed and loving. It’s like a brand new piece of paper, no wrinkles, smooth, clear. As the child begins to grow and live life, it accumulates certain kinks from its experiences. Through not getting enough love, being shut down for who the child is, being told how to behave all the time, what’s acceptable and what isn’t. Some kinks go quite a bit deeper through abusive situations the child may go through whether verbal, physical or sexual. Can you follow this so far?

Many of these impacts are of an energetic nature and leave imprints on that child’s way of thinking that will shape his or her world from a very young age. Going back to the piece of paper we can start to see the wrinkles begin to appear as the world imparts its stresses on it.

The child, a once very open being, ends up a contorted smaller version of the would be radiant self and begins to act in ways it deems acceptable to others versus showing it’s true nature. All this simply based on history and the accumulation of ‘stuff’ from living life.

We put shells around our hearts to protect ourselves from, sometimes real and sometimes perceived, threats for the rest of our lives. By the time some of us hit 30 we look more like a paper ball than the smooth, new sheet of paper we started as.

Do you think all this would affect your openness? Your willingness to be you in all your splendor as you were meant to live? Of course it does.

Then one day someone asks you who you are and in all honestly, you cannot answer.

There was a woman at a meeting I was at who was in tears because she had lived her whole life doing what other people wanted her to do and she could not answer this question. Didn’t know where to even start. She’s in her 50’s now. That’s heart breaking.

www.settingheartsfree.com/opening.html

These shells of contracture must be cracked if you are to get a glimpse of the true self you were born to be. We all have them to some degree and for some of us the desire to want to know our truth becomes extremely important one day. How much do you want to know the truth of you? Are you ready to begin living life the way it was meant for you?

The divine tricks us into coming together so the real work in relationship can begin when the feeling of familiarity begins to fade.

If you ’re conscious, you can work through these things together. If you ’re not, you ’ll spend your time convincing the other that you ’re right and they need to get some counseling. Do you get it?

Sometimes you stay together because of the kids or the fear of being left alone or not having someone. You just tolerate what was meant to be one of the most beautiful unions on this planet.

Some people move on to another relationship just to realize in short order that the issues appear to be the same although the face is slightly different.

My teacher says: “You take yourself with you where ever you go.”

When the relationship changes and the issues are still the same, after 2 or 3 of them you have to realize that the common denominator is “YOU”. That was a tough one to swallow for me.

I’ll address the other two components to this story, in our next email. Take some time this week to look through your past and see how this idea of romantic infatuation has played out in your life. Does it sound familiar? Where have you been holding back? And why?

Do you want to know who you are beyond the shells of contracture around your heart? Come see!

The Opening

Open Heart, No Fear!

Martin Hahn
www.settingheartsfree.com
President and Lead Facilitator

The Secret of Life: Become a Lake

An aging Hindu master grew tired of his apprentice complaining, and so, one morning, sent him for some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master instructed the unhappy young man to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it. “How does it taste?” the master asked. “Bitter,” spat the apprentice.

The master then asked the young man to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake nearby. Once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, “Now drink from the lake.” As the water dripped down the young man’s chin, the master asked, “How does it taste?” “Fresh,” remarked the apprentice. “Do you taste the salt?” asked the master. “No,” said the young man.

At this, the master took the young man’s hands, offering, “The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains exactly the same. However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things . . .Stop being a glass. Become a lake.”

~Author unknown

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Magical Relationships

She said “My husband loves that I am assertive and self confident but he only wants me to be that way in private. In public he wants me to be quiet. And I’m beginning to see that in private he wants to be in control, to have the final say. I was bullied in my previous marriage. I won’t compromise myself anymore. ”

At that moment I realized I’ve been living the solution to her dilemma. It began almost a year earlier, when a charter member of a group I had recently joined encouraged me to talk to the group’s founder. She said something like “You’re the help he needs.” Since then Guy and I have collaborated on numerous creative projects and administrative decisions. That in itself is no big thing, people work together all the time but Guy aggravates me so much it’s been unlike any working relationship I’ve ever had. That certainly doesn’t sound like there’s a relationship solution there so let me give you some background. You will better understand why I think what I have learned is a solution for my client’s marital dilemma.

Guy and I are both strong willed independent minded entrepreneurs. We are opposites in many ways, and I am a “never gonna happen again” woman who comes from a male dominated childhood and prior marriage where I felt emotionally diminished. On the other hand we are in sync in many ways. We have a shared vision for our group, complimentary aesthetic tastes, a history of high level positive collaboration in many lifetimes together, and a rare closeness and respect of eachother.

We are also so comfortable with eachother we tend to be uncommonly straightforward in our conversations. Once, after overhearing us working through a design disagreement someone asked me if Guy and I were married. Surprised, I asked him why he thought that. He said it was because of how we were arguing with eachother. After thinking about it, I understood what he meant. You see, Guy and I were so aggravated with eachother I think we both wished we could have pulled out paint ball guns and creamed eachother, but underneath that was, and is, a clear, unshakable bond of respect, and commitment to finding mutually workable solutions.

Over time I’ve learned to trust Guy’s decisions and know that he respects and values my insights. It hasn’t come easily. There are things I felt strongly should have been done right away but he wouldn’t act on them. I didn’t have the administrative power to act so I spent many agonizing days doing energy healing on myself learning to let go. And then amazing things would happen, It would turn out, by observable circumstances, that his decision not to act was the right decision. There were other times he didn’t act and over time my sense of its importance continued until it was burning a hole in my head. I would go to him, tell him my head was on fire, and then, so amazing, he would set his ego aside and say “because it bothers you so much I will take care of it.” In those instances too we saw almost immediate positive outcomes.

Recently I had a vision of us being priest and priestess. I was there to serve him so he could serve humanity. In turn he was there to meet my needs so I could fulfill my life’s mission. Later that day I received the phone call from the wife who was concerned about giving up her self in compromise to her husband. A revelation flashed in my head. I am willingly surrendering my ego to Guy while maintaining my high self esteem and confidence.

Many times I’ve heard the passage in the New Testament that men are to love their wives as themselves and women are to submit to/respect their husbands. (Ephesians 5.) To be honest, I’ve never personally seen that modeled by couples where I could identify with the woman. So, when I realized Guy and I, in our work relationship, are living that concept it just blew my mind.

I shared this story with the wife and the next day with another strong woman who had just gone through a divorce. We were all shaken and speechless. I know there are more than just the three of us who have wrestled with maintaining our identity and value in a relationship so I thought it would be good to write it out for you all to read.

Surrendering vs Succumbing by Marie Forleo
“There is a certain amount of surrendering to your partner that is necessary if you want to have a magical relationship. I know this is a question that comes up, what is the difference between surrendering and succumbing to just what that other person wants? That’s where being clear and present is really useful. When you’re here in the moment you are free from your mental thoughts and your past conditioning and from all the ideas you’ve obsorbed over a lifetime of what it means to be a woman, or a good woman, or a sexy woman, or whatever. Your truth is there so you’re able to communicate from such a clear place from such a neutral place and compassionate place to the man you are with you can really make things work without much struggle.”

Happy Valentines Day.